August 9, 2003
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I watched Jerry Maguire tonight, it’s been so long since I’ve seen it that it turned out to be a treat. Like revisiting an old friend. I’m just sappy enough to appreciate the “You had me at hello” line.
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I registered for classmates.com about two years ago to find an old friend, I found him and we’ve kept in touch ever since. It was a really great thing and easy to do. It never occurred to me that anyone other than my old friends who have e-mailed me on and off since I signed up would use the site to find me. How naive.
I got an e-mail from a guy, not just any guy, the guy who date raped me in high school. He asked me to forgive him. It’s seems he took a contract in our old home town and when he drove by my old house he ”nearly hyperventilated” “Hence, time to ask for forgiveness.” So what do we think dear Xangans? You tell me what you think and then I’ll tell you what I think. fair enough.
Comments (5)
hmm… wow. It’s a big thing to forgive, I know. But it’s also a good, liberating experience. I don’t know how much of it you still carry around with you, or if it’s still affecting you now, but forgiving him can’t hurt. Doesn’t mean you’ll want to at first, or even understand why you should. But why carry it around, or make him carry anything extra around. It can be good for both of ya. It’s ultimately up to you though.
Love and light,
jeremey
I am so not the right person to ask about this, believe me. I hold a grudge when it comes to severe wrongs done to me….I know it’s wrong but I can’t help it. I have a hard time letting go and forgiving things of this nature
My thoughts on this matter are spelled out here.
Tell him to fuck off….nuff said.
wow. that is something that is probably very hard to forgive. i have 2 things to say. a very close friend of mine that i made out here in va was raped by her uncle as a child. i think she said she was seven or eight. because of him, her brain blocks out anything bad that happens to her, i guess from the trauma of it happening to her so young. she forgave him. they dont speak or anything, but she has forgiven him in her heart to find peace with god.
now, a relative of mine, who is very close to me in friendship and in family, was raped by a friend of the families when she was 13. although she never told her parents because he told her he would say she initiated it, i think she has come to terms with it a little bit. i dont think she has forgiven him, but at the same time, i think if that happened to me, i could not forgive the person. why ease someones conscience when what they feel guilty about caused you so much pain and sorrow? thats just how i feel. i hope you figure out what to do… im sure whatever it is will be the right choice for you. good luck, god bless!
love, kandi