July 9, 2003
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I changed my skin AGAIN, if I could just find one that everyone could read easily and some modicum of style I would probably leave the damn thing alone. I’m satisfied with so much in my life why can’t I be happy with a simple xanga skin? I really need to teach myself some html then I could tweak until it was what I want. Right now I’m not thrilled with xanga anyway, it took me 20 minutes yesterday to tell Morgane she’s brilliant. By the time that one comment loaded I was so disgusted with the whole thing I turned the computer off.
Now for a question of parents:
This really bothers me and I’m wondering if the same thing happens to other people. It involves prejudice so if the subject scares you go to another page now. My dad who is 83 was born in the South so he has some pretty old school ideas. He very rarely says anything I find offensive, but when he does he goes all out. The other day he was complaining about the rights being given to gay and lesbian people. He doesn’t know it, because he hasn’t taken the time to know it, but a whole lot of my friends are gay. In fact my first boyfriend from high school is gay. One of my biggest hopes is that I can go spend a week in San Fran. with him and Alan. With a quick stop to see my cousin, who is also gay. I never even think…oh I’m going to go see my gay ex-boyfriend until someone says something idiotic. I just want to go see Alan and Bill. Or I want to have lunch with Kathy and Sara. A few years back he made a racist remark involving the N word that pissed me off so bad I yelled at him, I never yell at my dad, but to this day he won’t say a word about a black person. Good or Bad, and truth to tell I’m glad because I don’t want to hear it. Does anyone out there think I should do the same thing again or should I just “let it lie”? He is 83, and bottom line he is my dad. What do you think?
Comments (7)
I guess it depends on whether or not it frustrates you to the point of needing to say something.. I have an uncle like that who is a complete redneck but at the end of the day, no matter how much we squabble, and he digs me with his racist jokes and I flatten him with my left wing schtick, he’s still blood and I love him. I just wanna, you know, smack him sometimes. Okay, a lot.. Gee, I don’t know
I guess if he’s that rooted in his Deep South ways, then the rational, “How exactly does it hurt you, and how exactly is someone’s private choice any of your business?” technique isn’t going to work…
And LOL ~ I really appreciated your comment, and now I appreciate it even more so knowing how much trouble you took to make it!! Thank you!
on tv, there is a program called “A baby story” and it shows couples having children and adapting to life and whatnot. on a particular episode, it showed a lesbian couple having their second child. my mother was so disgusted she turned off the tv. my best friend is a bi sexual, and he’s introduced me to almost the entire gay community of alberta. i have no problem. she however, needs to get a grip and grow up. so i told her that. sometimes you need to thrash them out and tell them what you think. if not, there’s always jerry springer
~j
I’m with Morgane…it just depends on how much it frustrates you. If you’re asking whether to let it lie or not, then you probably can do that. I’d be tempted, but then again I’m really bad at confrontations. Or there’s the third option….sit down and talk to him calmly about it! Point out that many of your friends and family are gay and that you think that they deserve the same rights as you or he. After all, he possibly only has his opinions because he doesn’t think he knows anyone who is gay!
Thanks for the birthday wishes, and I’m sure that caramel freddo frogs (chocolate frogs with caramel inside) are very nutritious and definately a good partner for bananas!
Oops..sorry, forgot I was logged in as WB.
By the way, I can read this font easily….much more easily than the last one.
I don’t know about the yelling part but definitely yes, tell him how you feel and that you find it offensive. I think the South thing is of no consequence. That’s one on my red ass things – stereotypes. There is a faction of the south that are racist, There are a whole lot more that are loving and accepting of everyone. I traveled the whole country and I found that bigotry existed everywhere – no more and no less than in the south.
I also don’t like Northern stereotypes. That they are all rude and talk through their noses. I’ve just known too many people from too many places. The two bottom line categories of people for me no matter what the origin are: 1) Nice People 2) Assholes. They all fall under one of the two for me without much in between!!!
Are you sorry you asked? My short answer: Tell him how you feel. It sounds like he’s on the plan now, anyway! Thanks for the comment in the guestbook. I’m a little dry on material but might put something up just for looks soon!
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YAY MOM!!!
You’re tittle font is unreadable, but the rest of the site is fine. You should see what I’ve done to mine… and I don’t even use premium. I just tinker too much.
I know I’m not a parent, but, hey, the subject touches home. I have been letting it lie with my stepdad for a long time, and now they sort of know, and nothing’s really being said. Sometimes you really can’t change people, though. And trying too hard just messes things up. Ignoring it wont make it go away, but sometimes what else can you do? Not to sound ungrateful for the support, you know I need lots of help
Sometimes it’s just better to let it lie…
You’ll do the right thing, I have faith in you.
Love you guys,
Jemerey
i dunno… i think parents were raised in a different age… which doesnt excuse it…
but what was acceptable then… is way different than whats acceptable now. belief systems die hard.