August 15, 2003
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Everyone knows someone who was raped, whether they know it or not. After 25 years of living with my rape I chose to forgive because I am not that 16 year old girl anymore. I did some checking and found out that he is not that 16 year old boy anymore either. My personal experience was never reported and very few knew about what happened, but it left me changed. I lived with those feeling for so long that to tell the truth I’m relieved to have closure. It was good to find out that he too had to live with what happened, that he either grew a conscience or had one that he ignored that night so long ago. It felt good to know that I had the power to forgive or not. I was the parole board. I released us both for good behavior. I thought that I was the only one serving that 25 years but it appears that I wasn’t alone in that cell after all.
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love you momma.
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i think you are right to express this and forgive . You are relieved . And free .
Love
Michel
Yes, I was also in the same situation, with rape. I’ve told myself to forgive the guy a million times, and for a while I thought I had. But I still find myself angry over the whole situation quite often, the thought never leaves my mind, even a whole year later. But I’m really impressed that you could take such a huge step to forgive him. That’s big. Congrats, you’re a strong girl.
I’da still told him to fuck off.
BTW…there is no such rebate…
Back at ya!
That’s true wisdom. Realizing that you have the power to forgive.
It took us two rolls of duct tape. My friend and I had to run out to buy the second. First, put the person on the highest stool or chair you can find. Then do his/her arms and torso. Then, when there’s enough tape to hold, remove the chair and tape the feet and legs. Lol, then for fun, tape a ransom note to your friend and take pictures to email to his/her father offering him/her in exchange for said father’s big red boat.
This can also be a fun game for children. I call it “The Duct-Tape Game”. Present it as a challenge of who can stay up the longest. You’ll be shocked with the children’s enthusiasm.
~A fellow Arkansan